Although I sat through the sixteen minutes and thirty four seconds of John Edwards' "apology," I regret to say that at no time during that interview did I hear him utter the words, "I'm sorry." Curious ommission, deliberate choice, or subliminal refusal to be accountable-- despite multiple repetitions of 'having made a mistake he's responsible for'?
Here at didtheywow, we're going with subliminal refusal. Why? Because if you read his AP Newswire "apology," although you see the words, "I'm sorry" appear, they appear as follows, "It is inadequate to say to the people who believed in me that I am sorry, and it is inadequate to say to the people I love that I am sorry."
Really? I don't remember being polled as to what I feel is adequate or not. Anybody else get a call?
Mr. Edwards goes on to claim that the choices he made were due to a belief that "I was special" and that he "became increasingly egocentric and narcissistic." Perhaps. The larger question, however, is does he continue to feel 'special'? From where I sit, the answer is, yes. His decision regarding what is adequate for others to hear in terms of an apology--to me-- contains a distinct stink of egotism and narcissism.
Your thoughts?
P.S. and b/t/w: didtheywow wants to go on the record as saying Mr. Edwards' assertion that his marriage will survive this is likely to be a falsehood. Watch his eyes when he says it-- their downward shift tells another story.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Monday, March 31, 2008
Should we listen to Bill and chill?
Mr. Clinton's consummate storytelling skills were evident during his "Chill Out" speech yesterday in Missoula. He chose the forum to educate Democrats regarding the current "vigorous debate" over whether Senator Clinton's refusal to withdraw from the race is hurting the Democratic primary.
As children, we were imprinted with the "Once upon a time" formula, and Mr. Clinton worked that formula to perfection yesterday. In this case, his "Once upon a time," was, "On June 2, 1992, when I won the Democratic primary, I had been so chewed up..." etc.
At this point we are told how the big bad wolf, -- in this instance Ross Perot-- entered the forest.
Thankfully, however, the situation was saved. But not, he notes-- and this is really where you see his gift-- not by Candidate Clinton, the hero, but by YOU: "Six weeks later when the Democratic Convention opened-- thanks to you, and many people like you-- Al Gore and I were in first place."
That pause before "thanks to you" is what's known in my business as 'the reveal'-- our hearts swell as he lets us in, and makes us one, with his victory.
Did Bill C. unveil the right idea, in the right way, at the right moment-- or was it too little, too late? I look forward to your thoughts.
As children, we were imprinted with the "Once upon a time" formula, and Mr. Clinton worked that formula to perfection yesterday. In this case, his "Once upon a time," was, "On June 2, 1992, when I won the Democratic primary, I had been so chewed up..." etc.
At this point we are told how the big bad wolf, -- in this instance Ross Perot-- entered the forest.
Thankfully, however, the situation was saved. But not, he notes-- and this is really where you see his gift-- not by Candidate Clinton, the hero, but by YOU: "Six weeks later when the Democratic Convention opened-- thanks to you, and many people like you-- Al Gore and I were in first place."
That pause before "thanks to you" is what's known in my business as 'the reveal'-- our hearts swell as he lets us in, and makes us one, with his victory.
Did Bill C. unveil the right idea, in the right way, at the right moment-- or was it too little, too late? I look forward to your thoughts.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Eliot Spitzer's apology
According to UCLA professor emeritus Albert Mehrabian, when evaluating public speaking people only remember 7% of the words you say; 38% of your impact comes from your tonal quality and 55% from what your body is doing while you are speaking.
As the author of "How to Wow: Proven Strategies for Presenting Your Ideas, Persuading Your Audience, and Perfecting Your Image," the first thing I noticed was the disconnect between Mr. Spitzer's overuse of the word[s] "apology/apologize," and his lack of eye contact, rigid physicality, and flat delivery. Turn the sound on your YouTube down, and it's unlikely you would guess you were looking at an apology.
Should you wish to parse his delivery further, I found it fascinating that although he didn't stumble before saying, "I have acted in a way that violates my obligations to my family," he did when he reached, "and that violates my, or any, sense of right and wrong."
This was, to me, an interesting moment to choke...is it possible Mr. Spitzer wasn't heart whole in his feeling of having violated his sense of right and wrong?
Finally, when Yale University studied the most influential words in the English language they informed us that "you" is that most influential word. Never once, however, did Governer Spitzer say, "I apologize to you." We were, instead, "the public."
Along with Travis Bickel, another New Yorker with a dubious grasp on reality, I must ask, "are you talkin' to me" Eliot?
Let me know what you think.
As the author of "How to Wow: Proven Strategies for Presenting Your Ideas, Persuading Your Audience, and Perfecting Your Image," the first thing I noticed was the disconnect between Mr. Spitzer's overuse of the word[s] "apology/apologize," and his lack of eye contact, rigid physicality, and flat delivery. Turn the sound on your YouTube down, and it's unlikely you would guess you were looking at an apology.
Should you wish to parse his delivery further, I found it fascinating that although he didn't stumble before saying, "I have acted in a way that violates my obligations to my family," he did when he reached, "and that violates my, or any, sense of right and wrong."
This was, to me, an interesting moment to choke...is it possible Mr. Spitzer wasn't heart whole in his feeling of having violated his sense of right and wrong?
Finally, when Yale University studied the most influential words in the English language they informed us that "you" is that most influential word. Never once, however, did Governer Spitzer say, "I apologize to you." We were, instead, "the public."
Along with Travis Bickel, another New Yorker with a dubious grasp on reality, I must ask, "are you talkin' to me" Eliot?
Let me know what you think.
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